What is the Distracter pattern (irrelevant reaction)?
The Distracter is a mix of Blamer, Placater and Computer. One moment, they might be blaming someone using threatening language, the next moment they might show their Placater characteristics. Then they will jump into the Computer type and shut off all emotions. This habit of switching in between types and from one behavior to another, confuses everyone, and hence the name Distracter. They keep on talking about different things, and the other person is unable to understand how to respond. They also use generalizations, and omit references.
Whatever the distractor says or does, it has no relation to what anyone else says or does. He never answers a question directly. Inwardly, he feels dizzy or blurry. The voice can be a chant and often does not fit the words; he can move back and forth for no reason because he is not focused on anything.
When people are irrelevant, they are always on the move. It is an attempt to distract the attention of others from the issues under discussion. The irrelevant reactant constantly produces new ideas and wants to do myriads of things at the same time. Self, others and the context of interaction are irrelevant to such people, if they are in the position of irrelevance.
People often describe those who act irrelevantly as spontaneous and happy. Often, in the course of one’s life, a general instability develops from irrelevant behavior, and they seem to have no goals. As long as they manage to divert attention from issues that could be cause them even the least amount of stress, they believe they will survive. They are unable to focus on a particular topic.
Distracting reactions includes:
Words: unrelated, inconsequential, the words make no sense
Body: angular and pointing in different directions.
Thoughts and feelings: ("Nobody understands me, I do not belong anywhere.")