Take time to answer the following questions:

Who am I?

Who am I really?

Who am I physically?

Who am I socially?

Who am I emotionally?

Who am I spiritually?

Who am I in terms of my accomplishments?

Who am I in terms of my failures and mistakes?

Who am I in terms of my goals?

Who am I in terms of my social roles?

Who am I really? Why?

Who am I not? Why not?

The purpose of these questions is to identify how you see yourself in the present moment and then compare that against the final set of questions laid out below. The final set of questions focuses on what kind of person you’re seeking to become.

As you go through each question, you will gain various insights and perspectives into who you are. And that’s perfectly okay. Embrace these differences, because this is in essence how you see yourself each day.

It’s also important to note that there are no incorrect answers. Things are the way they are.

What’s most relevant here is whether or not these answers are congruent with the answers you give to the following set of questions:

Who am I ideally seeking to become?

How do I see myself in the future?

What kind of person is this person? What’s this person like?

What kinds of qualities does this person have?

How does this person think?

How does this person talk to themselves?

What kind of questions does this person ask themselves?

What kind of emotions does this person experience?

What kind of habits does this person indulge in?

What experiences does this person have each day?

What kind of goals is this person working towards?

What kind of person is this person really?

Your ideal self must be congruent with your perceived self in the present moment.

If there is a significant difference between the two, then you must work on bridging that gap — thereby strengthening your self-concept.

Let’s now take a closer look at that gap. Ask yourself:

What’s the gap between my perceived self and my ideal self?

Where is the gap most significant?

Where is the gap not so significant?

Is the distance between the gap realistic?

How could I begin bridging this gap starting today?

Your objective for the remainder of this journey is to begin bridging that gap between your ideal self and the self you are experiencing at this very moment.

The more congruent both of these “selves” are, the stronger and healthier your self-concept will become.