How to make an alliance with your inner critical voice?
One of the presuppositions of NLP is that, “behind every behavior, there is a positive intention. For the purposes of this information, we’ll assume that is true (because not everyone believes that, and that’s okay).
So if every behavior has a positive intention, then perhaps that means that your inner critic also has a positive intention, even if it’s methods do not appear to be uplifting and healthy. Consider this approach:
Embrace it, don’t see it as a negative. Take out of it what’s useful and leave the rest.
Learn the positive intention of the inner critic and find new ways to achieve it.
Perhaps if you take a step back and see what your inner critic is trying to show you, it may be trying to motivate you, or to protect you from something or someone.
When you ask what the intention is, be sure and wait for the answer. Sometimes doing so makes it go away on its own.
You may get a positive intention and you can actually agree with that intention and use it to your advantage.
Then you have to ask the critic: are you willing to motivate me without criticizing me and bringing me down?
By doing so, you have essentially made an alliance with the very thing that you thought was holding you back.