Master NLP Practitioner & Gestalt Therapist
How to discover your self concept?
Choose a quality, capacity or attitude that you know is true of yourself and that you like. How do I know I am X? There are likely to be a number of aspects.
There is a simplified image or summary representation. This summary example includes the basic criteria for the other examples in the database
Database of examples and experiences that underlie it
The database examples might be visual, auditory or kinesthetic.
A wide range and number of examples in different contexts, makes it more compelling.
Location – where you represent them, at a distance, up high etc
It can be simultaneous (all at once) or sequential (like a tape or book pages). Kinesthetic System Processing and Auditory System examples are more sequential. Having visual simultaneous representations allows you to have a large quantity of examples.
It can be in any modality – visual, auditory, kinesthetic. Feelings summarize data but are less effective at presenting specific detail
Associated (as though you were there) or dissociated. Associated examples are stronger and more compelling
There will be Submodality differences – color, size, volume, tone. Usually memories that are large, colorful, close etc will feel much stronger and more real and important
Aspects of time relates to continuity and reliability. Past examples tend to stay in the past. Future examples are predictive.
A Healthy Self Concept
Durability and reliability – you don’t want your self-concept to collapse and disappear at the first hurdle. A wide range and number of examples in different contexts, makes it more solid.
Accurately based on competence and backed by confidence. A big bright summary image of self with few examples to back it up creates overconfidence
It is responsive to ongoing corrective feedback. Strong self-concepts are more sensitive to feedback – you notice differences more easily.
It is unconscious and automatic – peak performance, flow state. Self-consciousness tends to interfere with effectiveness.
Connection – separations come from making comparisons between ourselves and others and noticing the differences
Free of Self Importance and Egotism.