How to build a new quality for self concept?
This process is to create a new desired quality or attitude. It won’t override an ambiguous or negative self-concept because of the number of counterexamples. It uses the form of the positive database to assemble a set of memories into a new generalization. We have oodles of memories we can organize to prove just about anything we want about ourselves.
Experiences of dependence, often indicates where a quality is missing. That is, asking for reassurance or validation, complaints from others or envy/admiration. Another indication is only having examples of others when you think of a particular valued quality.