Updated: Mar 14
Today I want to talk to you about love,
About them, the ones you love. About you and then about both of you..
Yes About Love,
Then the community we belong to
and then about humanity, of which we are a part..
I want talk to you about love,
Because that is the only way ‘I can exist’
‘I am because you are”
We are ..
And therefore ubuntu - in many ways
Growing up love was like those many cute Disney stories,
or like ‘Ek ladki ka dekha to aisa laga,
aise khilta gulaab, shaayar ka khwaab, ujli kiran, van mein hiran
Tuu hai meri kiran and so much more ..
It was so playful like the Salman - Madhuri in Maine Pyaar Kiya ..
Well that is love too ..
Coz when you are in love, the brain chemistry changes.
But most importantly love is to get connected to a space within you,
that is the space of love.
Once you are connected to that space - you can be in love ..
well, you are in love with regard to another.
This spacial connection from within brings in allowance,
It brings in acceptance,
It brings in growth and then the evolution of self and the relation by itself.
In this space ‘love happens, its sensual its more !
An Instagram message to me - read like this
“I feel broken and I seek constant validation from my partner,
Anil, I feel so empty because my definitions and expectations of love is so different from my partner.
I get it ..
It is sometimes !
life is real and Shit goes down..
But then remember, do not loose that space ..
Yes that space within ..
It is the space of love
I do not want to deny that “life is horribly beautiful”
Well these are the very exact moments you step a bit back,
And if need be, back up a bit more
Uncouple for sometime
Get back to self
Find that space again
Only after you find that space, then you go to find the other..
You cannot be offering directions being blind and oblivious to the wilderness of the chaos.
Uncoupling need not be divorce
Need not be break up
If it is a Break up, it need not be break down !
You must be fearless enough to give yourself the love
that you didn't receive
Uncoupling is healthy sometimes ..
And its important too..
Its a pause from where you can now decide ..
to move on
or to move in, again
Does't matter what you decide,
coz, its all good in the big matrix
Love is an internal feeling
and its good to know if there are any insecure attachments,
and if something like that comes to your awareness,
Then I strongly recommend to come to the centre,
The very centre, what fritz calls as the space of balance,
What Dick calls as the place of being
What Judy calls as the dance, where the movement begins the music flows
So beware, of the anxious attachments or the dismissive attachments
Coz both will consume you,
It will drag you out of the space of dance
You wouldn't want any of those
Neither the Anxious attachments NOR the avoiding ones
So how do you now create secure attachments ..
To know when to fold and how much to hold,
Its about experiencing yourself in the other person’s presence,
and for that full experience, You must be willing to experience what is really happening within, so dial within, find that out.. !
Cos that is where you are going to get all the information from,
By paying attention to all the emotions,
Your emotions are the map,
It has all the direction you ever need !
And never is anything more important that that !